It’s all your fault.

This is a brilliant (and yet disturbing) satire on rape culture and sexual violence. There have been superficial satires before, but this hits right where it hurts. And that’s how satires should be.
I can’t praise them enough for making this. Thank you, All India Bakchod!

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28 responses to “It’s all your fault.

  1. Another “rape culture” video that really doesn’t get it. There are two sides to the victim blaming argument. These sides are “Women are objects incapable of making even basic choices” and “Women ARE NOT just furniture that comes with the apartment”. What side of this argument are you on?

    • Another “rape culture” video that really doesn’t get it.

      Oh?

      There are two sides to the victim blaming argument.

      There really aren’t.

      These sides are “Women are objects incapable of making even basic choices” and “Women ARE NOT just furniture that comes with the apartment”. What side of this argument are you on?

      What in Thor’s name are you talking about guy? Did you just imply that women chose to get raped or something, in any of these incidents? Or else what is your point then?
      Also the video is absolutely clear about what happens – no matter what a woman do, she gets the blame.

      • Clearly you are so invested in objectifying women that you can’t even see that your objectifying women.

        And apparently you can’t even substantiate your point other than making unfounded, arrogant assertions about what I think, despite me asking to.

      • You have already made what you think clear. It is wrong evil mysoginy to identify risk factors for rape and educate women about them. You want women treated like furniture. Things happen to women. There is nothing that any woman can do to affect risks, and talking about that is like blaming the couch for getting spilled on.

      • You have already made what you think clear. It is wrong evil mysoginy to identify risk factors for rape and educate women about them.

        Well thanks for that psychoanalysis, Mr Freud. Because clearly that’s what you got from the video, which is about a culture that gives women contradictory ‘advice’ that they pull out of their ass and placing the burden of blame on them.

        You want women treated like furniture.

        I would love for you to explain this non-sequitur away, that me being against all kind of victim blaming somehow translating into me objectifying women.

        There is nothing that any woman can do to affect risks, and talking about that is like blaming the couch for getting spilled on.

        Err, what was the point of posting that ridiculous and fallacious weak analogy exactly? Because spilling drink on the couch isn’t the couch’s fault (right reasoning till that point), so saying women shouldn’t be blamed for something that isn’t their fault makes them objects? Are you for real?

        Also what are your ‘advice’ for women not getting raped? Maybe staying at home? Oh wait, most rapes are actually committed by spouses or people known to the victim. Maybe lock them up in a cellar or something I suppose? Or putting them all in a women only Island or something? I’m sure you have plenty of valuable insights to offer, of course.

      • We can’t even begin a reasonable discussion on what the real risk factors are until feminists stop the shrill histrionics every time someone even makes an attempt. “Rape Culture” and “Victim Blaming” are not ways to start a conversation, but ways to end the conversation.

        My advice for women to reduce the risk of rape? Well that would be for YOU to write a post about what the risk factors for rape are, and how women can minimize them.

      • We can’t even begin a reasonable discussion on what the real risk factors are until feminists stop the shrill histrionics every time someone even makes an attempt. “Rape Culture” and “Victim Blaming” are not ways to start a conversation, but ways to end the conversation.

        Err, that conclusion is based on what is observed in reality and research. And of course, not to mention that you haven’t addressed any of the points I raised, or done anything except – a. accusing me of objectifying women b. making a fallacious analogy to support your claim.

        My advice for women to reduce the risk of rape? Well that would be for YOU to write a post about what the risk factors for rape are, and how women can minimize them.

        So you make some fallacious analogy, and whine all this while about how the video about victim blaming gets it all wrong, and you’re saying I should write a post on how to prevent rape? I don’t even.

      • I know that writing a post about the risk factors of rape is futile. Regardless of how sound the research is or how mundane the advice it will be called victim blaming. Any attempt to assert that women are more than furniture gets shouted down with “Victim Blaming” and “Rape Culture”. You seem to be aware of this, but unwilling to admit it. The conversation is no longer if the victim is “at fault” but if the victim is an object incapable of any agency at all.

        I’m not arguing that there is no bad prevention advice out there. Many things that have been said are just stupid, but not all of it. If you actually believe that women are more than furniture, you need to be talking about what agency women do have, not contributing to the belief that women are furniture.

      • I know that writing a post about the risk factors of rape is futile. Regardless of how sound the research is or how mundane the advice it will be called victim blaming.

        Err, what? As I said, locking women in a room, alone could also technically prevent rape. That doesn’t make it okay or acceptable. The point is women should have the freedom to do whatever they want without being feared every moment of getting raped or harassed. Clear?

        Any attempt to assert that women are more than furniture gets shouted down with “Victim Blaming” and “Rape Culture”. You seem to be aware of this, but unwilling to admit it. The conversation is no longer if the victim is “at fault” but if the victim is an object incapable of any agency at all.

        I already pointed out why your furniture analogy is fallacious, and yet you shamelessly keep bringing it up again. And added an accusation of me being aware of it, but I am unwilling to admit it. This discussions is going great with all your psychoanalysis of myself.

        I’m not arguing that there is no bad prevention advice out there. Many things that have been said are just stupid, but not all of it. If you actually believe that women are more than furniture, you need to be talking about what agency women do have, not contributing to the belief that women are furniture.

        No, that is just absurd false analogy and false dichotomy. Your poor reasoning doesn’t help your case one bit. Rape prevention is about addressing terribly misogyny. There is no ‘quick fix’ to this problem.

        Again I ask you, what is your ‘good prevention advice’? That’s exactly the crap as detailed in the video. Because that’s all what women get from all the corners, ‘advice’on how to prevent rape. And yet rape happen when they have men with them, rape happens at home, rape happens with perpetrators known to the victim, rape knows when they wear Salwars or Saris. So what is your point, aside from possibly perpetrating rape myths?

      • You seem to be skipping all of the ground between there are no risk factors for rape and keeping women locked in cages.

        I know better than to attempt to give advice on rape prevention. “Don’t stagger down the street naked so drunk you can barely stand up yelling ‘come fuck me’ ” still gets called victim blaming. If meaningful advice on the subject is to be forthcoming it needs to come from feminists.

        Finally NO women do not and should not have the right to do whatever they want with no fear of consequences. Civilization is based on laws. If we stop holding any group of people accountable for their actions, this places them above the law. I will not stand for that.

      • You seem to be skipping all of the ground between there are no risk factors for rape and keeping women locked in cages.

        Actually no I haven’t. I have explained why this is and how most rapes are spousal rapes etc. – so the only thing that seems to make somewhat ‘immune’ would be women being alone or locking them up and hoping that no one comes in rapes them. Unless you think of course, spousal rape is not important or something.

        I know better than to attempt to give advice on rape prevention. “Don’t stagger down the street naked so drunk you can barely stand up yelling ‘come fuck me’ ” still gets called victim blaming. If meaningful advice on the subject is to be forthcoming it needs to come from feminists.

        What.the.fuck? Is this your idea of having a healthy conversation? Yeah because that is what women do, being barely clothed, getting drunk and asking rapists to fuck them. Not only a strawman, but the asinine nature and insensitivity of this crap you just said is staggering.

        Finally NO women do not and should not have the right to do whatever they want with no fear of consequences. Civilization is based on laws. If we stop holding any group of people accountable for their actions, this places them above the law. I will not stand for that.

        Seriously? Did you really infer that from what I just said? Well let me it rephrase that for you then – I didn’t mean women should have the right to kill or burgle people. I meant women should have basic human rights, i.e. going out etc. without being shamed or having the constant fear of raped – which every human being in entitled to. Would the be clear enough?

      • You are engaging in all or nothing thinking. NOTHING will make you immune to rape NOTHING. There are risk factors that make it more likely or less likely. Just because the risk factors are not 100% accurate predicting 100% of the rapes 100% of the time does not mean there are not factors that affect risk.

        I know it was a strawman of behavior. But even that strawman of women don’t really act like that is still “victim blaming”. Even when talking about rediculus behaviors that no one engages in, it’s still victim blaming.

        Women should have the right to not feel shame or fear? So I’m expected to take ownership and control of your feelings? Society can and should control risk factors. It is asinine to expect society to control your emotions.

      • //You are engaging in all or nothing thinking. NOTHING will make you immune to rape NOTHING. There are risk factors that make it more likely or less likely. Just because the risk factors are not 100% accurate predicting 100% of the rapes 100% of the time does not mean there are not factors that affect risk.//
        Err no. Who is talking about all or nothing? I clearly emphasized that most rapes that take place are spousal rape and acquaintance rape. So either women should leave doubting and fearing everyone they socialize with or probably should lock them in house without human contact. Because no matter whether they get out, or even stay in, they still very much could get raped. So why do you keep bringing that up again?

        //I know it was a strawman of behavior. But even that strawman of women don’t really act like that is still “victim blaming”. Even when talking about rediculus behaviors that no one engages in, it’s still victim blaming.//
        So you knew that it was a strawman argument, and still thought it was somehow okay to bring it up anyway? WTF dude..?

        //Women should have the right to not feel shame or fear? So I’m expected to take ownership and control of your feelings? //
        My god, are you for real? I can’t belive I have to say this out, but you do know that women don’t choose to feel shame or fear, don’t you? My point was that women should be able to have basic human rights everyone is entitled to without fear and shame, and this was your response? And //I’m expected to take ownership and control of your feelings? // wtf is this even supposed to mean here?
        //Society can and should control risk factors. It is asinine to expect society to control your emotions.//
        Exactly – risk factor being men feeling entitled to rape. So attack the root problem, i.e. misogyny in our society. Which is what I’m keep saying. So it’s asinine now to ask society to not spread rape myths, engage in victim blaming or saying that women should have their basic human rights without getting shamed or living in constant fear of rape and harassment?

      • Your the one harping on spousal rape, but now it’s spousal rape and acquaintance rape. There are options in between being locked in a cage and stumbling down the street drunk and naked with various levels of risk involved. Shouldn’t we have a conversation about what the risks are so that you can choose a risk level that is acceptable to you?
        Stumbling down the street naked and drunk is a strawman of behavior. It is ridiculous behavior almost no one engages in. It is not a strawman of your argument that holds even her behavior has no affect on risks.
        Not only is it a strawman, it’s very asinine to bring in on a discussion of rape as well. IDK why this was even brought up – because how many cases do you know of that nature? If she consented it’s not rape. If she didn’t consent it is rape.
        Shame and Fear are emotions. They come from within you. They are not imposed on you from the outside. Emotions, all emotions, are internal. Telling me that it’s wrong to make you afraid is the exact same logic and thinking that leads abusives to say it’s wrong to make me angry. Abusives need to learn to control their anger. You need to learn to control your fear.
        If you want to talk about risk, that is an important conversation. But emotions like fear and shame have no part in that conversation.

        Edit from Indianmalefeminist: Sorry, I accidentally edited out this post and posted my response here instead. I have restored your post and I am positive that this was all of your post, but if there was some portion that I missed, I’ll give you one more post to clarify what it was. I am pretty sure that’s all of your post, but just to make sure. Otherwise we are done here

      • Your the one harping on spousal rape, but now it’s spousal rape and acquaintance rape. There are options in between being locked in a cage and stumbling down the street drunk and naked with various levels of risk involved. Shouldn’t we have a conversation about what the risks are so that you can choose a risk level that is acceptable to you?

        Harping on about spousal rape? Classy. You’re the one who kept ‘harping on about’ the video missing the point and there being effective preventive measures, remember? I am explaining why your argument is flawed, and now you’re shifting it on to me? What exactly is your so called solution that addresses all this rapes and significantly reduces the rate? FOr me there are no ifs and buts, a woman shouldn’t have to ‘take preventive measure’ just because she happened to be born with a vagina. Or neither would I encourage such bullshit where we already live in a society which uses every opportunity to place blame on women. So no.

        Stumbling down the street naked and drunk is a strawman of behavior. It is ridiculous behavior almost no one engages in. It is not a strawman of your argument that holds even her behavior has no affect on risks.

        Not only is it a strawman, it’s very asinine to bring in on a discussion of rape as well. IDK why this was even brought up – because how many cases do you know of that nature? If she consented it’s not rape. If she didn’t consent it is rape.

        Shame and Fear are emotions. They come from within you. They are not imposed on you from the outside. Emotions, all emotions, are internal. Telling me that it’s wrong to make you afraid is the exact same logic and thinking that leads abusives to say it’s wrong to make me angry. Abusives need to learn to control their anger. You need to learn to control your fear.

        Err, thanks for your wisdom again, Mr. Freud, because you apparently keep making this assumptions about victims. So I wonder why bullying and sexual harrasment is even a crime? Because apparently for you there is no such thing as emotional harm or trauma. And not everything is about you, stop saying “telling me” – you never came up in this conversation. Attitude of a collective society is different from individuals, although individuals are part of the society. You are not society but part of the society. Also this is classic victim blaming (also terrible reasoning), placing burden on victim. Anger and it’s effect is something abuser choose to inflict on the victim, fear is the natural reaction to the abuse. It’s disturbing that I have to even explain this.
        Also yes, it is a problem if women have to constantly live in a fear of getting raped. Because that shows how fucked up the society is.

        If you want to talk about risk, that is an important conversation. But emotions like fear and shame have no part in that conversation.

        Well for psychopaths it doesn’t, but usually for humans with conscience it is a problem. Sorry to inform you that. Also you missed my point by not reading my post – that is women don’t choose to be afraid, it’s the unsafe setting for women we have that causes the fear. And you are doing no favors with your appalling reasoning and your ‘preventive measure’ crap here.

        And I’m so done with you, since you made absolutely no point so far except making a bunch of fallacious comments (which you are yet to admit) and has offered nothing to add since your very first post.

      • You want me to “present solutions” so that you can scream Rape Culture and Victim Blaming at me. I’m not falling for it. Any “solution” that is not treating women like furniture is “Victim Blaming” and “Rape Culture”. Do you have any solutions where women are not furniture?

        Risk of (insert event) and fear of (insert event) are almost never significantly connected. If you want to end the fear of (insert event), steps can be taken. If you want to reduce the risk of (insert event), steps can be taken. These will not be the same steps. The risk factors for (insert event) are not connect to fear of the event. This is true for any event. Rape, drowning, being eaten alive by rats, abuse, falling down the stairs. Rape is not some special event that exists outside the rules for logic and perception.

        Read some philosophy. Study emotions. It may not be a conscious choice. But being afraid is a choice, just like being angry is a choice. If fear is something imposed on you by outside forces, than the anger that leads to abuse is imposed by outside forces. If emotions are imposed then abuse is the fault of the person being hit. We both know that’s bullshit. So emotions are not imposed, fear is chosen.

      • You want me to “present solutions” so that you can scream Rape Culture and Victim Blaming at me. I’m not falling for it. Any “solution” that is not treating women like furniture is “Victim Blaming” and “Rape Culture”. Do you have any solutions where women are not furniture?

        I see how you have not dropped the fallacious furniture/couch analogy despite me pointing it out multiple times here. Good job. And also yeah, because you get to again judge what I say, because you know me all well, right?

        Risk of (insert event) and fear of (insert event) are almost never significantly connected. If you want to end the fear of (insert event), steps can be taken. If you want to reduce the risk of (insert event), steps can be taken. These will not be the same steps. The risk factors for (insert event) are not connect to fear of the event. This is true for any event. Rape, drowning, being eaten alive by rats, abuse, falling down the stairs. Rape is not some special event that exists outside the rules for logic and perception.

        Err, what? Did you just pull that out of your ass? Because if there is a very significant risk of a traumatic event X happening then it quite rationally follows that the fear of X would happen too. Especially if you are constantly reminded of it. Also if you think any of the analogies, especially drowning and falling down the stairs (eating alive by rat is irrational fear as it is highly unlikely, so leaving that aside for a moment) I will just laugh. Because you are directly comparing a violation of fundamental human right and dignity by another to drowning and falling down the stairs? Right.

        Read some philosophy. Study emotions. It may not be a conscious choice. But being afraid is a choice, just like being angry is a choice. If fear is something imposed on you by outside forces, than the anger that leads to abuse is imposed by outside forces. If emotions are imposed then abuse is the fault of the person being hit. We both know that’s bullshit. So emotions are not imposed, fear is chosen.

        Err, says the guy who keeps making fallacious analogies despite pointing it out and keeps at his absurd reasoning all this while. I am a philosophy enthusiast and I don’t need your recommendation to do that, thank you very much. And you need to really improve your reasoning, and sense of morality and ethics because it’s really bad, to put it mildly.
        Also classic example of your awful reasoning here too, ironically in the same sentence you preached me about reading up on some philosophy.

        Being ‘angry’ is not a choice, and being ‘afraid’ is not a choice either, in isolation. But your argument in this context is bullshit, because you compared the abuser, who chose to act on his anger, and victim who inevitably live in fear of getting abused. The fear is symptomatic of the problem, not the problem – if this wasn’t any more obvious. For eg. Jews in Nazi Germany (sorry Godwin!) lived in abject fear of getting killed by Nazis and Nazis were rabidly obsessed and angry at the Jews. So according to your reasoning, Jews ‘chose’ to be afraid, just like the Nazis chose to be angry or to be prejudiced towards them. Makes sense, right?

        And you still don’t want to discuss the problem apparently, because for all this while, not even a single point was raised by you about the misogyny that is the root cause of all of this. You just want to apply a non-existent band aid to a gangrene. And ince you still haven’t bothered addressing anything (let alone showing the honesty to admit the fallacious arguments you made so far and I had pointed out) or post anything valuable, my decision to offer you one last comment is vindicated, thank you very much for that.

  2. WTF????
    I should first of all go and beat Kalki Koechlin for acting in this!!!
    I know many drunk men who ignored girl wearing short skirts. I know hundreds of girls wearing short skirts who come back home safely.
    My questions
    1. Two nuns were attacking by three men on their way back home. (in Kerala few months ago) what do nuns wear? eh? Short skirts?
    2. a girls was raped by two men and she was wearing Long sleeved kurta and jeans
    3. another story with a girl wearing chruidar with her shawls around and she raped and killed! what was she wearing? (Soumya case)
    A 5 year girl was tortured and raped by two men in Delhi and what was she wearing? A frock? What else kids wear at that time?

    This is very dumb notions about cloths and rape. Rape happens all due to misogyny and guy’s desire for sex! Cloths might stimulate a guy but still it won’t drive exactly to rape. I am telling if a guy has such a mentality even women wearing pardhas will be attacked.

    Unfortunately the Indian society is such that victim blaming “It’s your fault” bullshit is heard a lot. I mean this is 21st century and videos like this are taking women backwards. Alright even if we are completely covered still please can you guarantee our safety?

  3. You are a women pleaser and seriously men like you will do anything to get female attention!! You talk a lot about misogyny as if you have some kind of phd in it. But it’s not gonna help you get laid!!

    • Whoa, you’ve got me all figured out!

      And yes – you’re right, it’s not gonna help me get laid, and I’m not trying to either – because for the nth time I don’t consider women to be sex objects who exist to satisfy sexual desires of men (in bold). Which seems to be such a hard concept to comprehend for a lot of people.

      Oh apparently they give PhDs out for not being a complete douchebag now? Because that’s the only prerequisite that’s necessary for speaking against misogyny AFAIK.

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